Links to Online Sources of Information about Same-Sex Marriage and Gamete Donation: a Supplement to the PDRBoston video at
The opinion of some PDRBoston members on this issue
REGARDING GAMETE DONATION
The Sperm-Donor Kids Are Not Really All Right: A new study shows they suffer This has a broken link to the study titled, "My Daddy's Name is Donor." One of its several findings are that:
Donor off spring are significantly more likely than those raised by their biological parents to struggle with serious, negative outcomes such as delinquency, substance abuse, and depression, even when controlling for socio-economic and other factors.
Biology Matters- Take it from donor conceived kids with loving straight parents.
DONOR-CONCEIVED CHILDREN DEMAND RIGHTS
"My Father Was an Anonymous Sperm Donor"
We Deserve to Be Conceived in Love
Thoughts of Donor-conceived Children of Gay Parents in their Own Words
Why Sperm Donation is Bad for Dads and Kids (in 2006 the author was a Probate and Family Court judge in Boston)
Donor-Conceived Children Seek Missing Identities
http://anonymousus.org/ and http://anonymousus.org/stories/
"Talking with Children Conceived Through Donor Insemination, IVF with Egg Donor or Surrogacy"
How it feels to be a child of donor insemination
My father was a sperm donor. Here’s why I hate my conception
My father was an anonymous sperm donor. I feel the consequences of that every day
Children of Sperm Donors Speak Out
I've just found out I’m a sperm donor baby:
I’m having a hard time coming to terms with it. The thought that I may well have brothers and sisters out there, as well as nieces and nephews that I will most probably never meet, is really heartbreaking.
The thought of never knowing about my biological father is also something I’m finding tough to come to terms with.
I have so many unanswered questions that may never be answered. It’s as if I feel half complete.
I don’t know who I am any more, I know nothing about my biological father’s family or medical history.
Journey of the Adopted Self: A Quest for Wholeness (about the pain an adopted child may suffer from not knowing its biological parents; not a criticism of adoption.)
This NYT article is about the pain experienced by children fathered by American GIs in Vietnam who don't know their father: “I need to know where I come from,” said Trinh Tran, 46, a real estate agent in Houston who has searched in vain for her G.I. father. “I always feel that without him, I don’t exist.”
Child of Anonymous Sperm Donor Wants Right to Know Biological Parents: Alana, the author, writes: "The facts of my conception are that my father was paid to abandon me. There is no dignity in that. I suffered from debilitating identity issues, mistrust of the opposite sex, hatred and condemnation of the opposite sex, feelings of objectification – like I only exist as a play – toy for others, and feeling like a science experiment."
Caroline was fathered by a sperm donor - so why does she bitterly resent the stranger who gave her life? By FRANCES HARDY and DIANA APPLEYARD
Anonymous No More: Child of Sperm Donor Speaks Out: Such children struggle with a unique anxiety: What if I fall in love with my half-sibling? BY CHRISTOPHER WHITE
Who did I come from? The children of donor dads grow up: A revealing new study shows that, for donor offspring at least, being wanted isn't everything.
Europe moves to defend women and children [by banning all forms of birth surrogacy]
STATEMENTS BY ORGANIZATIONS AND INDIVIDUALS (SOME GAY) OPPOSED TO SAME-SEX MARRIAGE BECAUSE OF THEIR CONCERN FOR THE CHILDREN IT MAY PRODUCE WITH GAMETE DONATION
Statement by Maggie Gallagher, president of the Institute for for Marriage and Public Policy, why she believes same-sex marriage is wrong.
Statement by Brian Brown, president of the National Organization for Marriage, saying in this video why he believes same-sex marriage is wrong.
Video by Focus on the Family: "Are the needs of kids or adults more important?"
The Catholic church position is at http://www.marriageuniqueforareason.org/children-video/
"I'm Gay and I Oppose Same-Sex Marriage"
Doug Mainwaring: I'm gay and I oppose same-sex marriage [Note, this is a different article from the one above with a similar title.]
The Kids Are Not Alright: A Lesbian’s Daughter Speaks Out
My Father Was Gay. Why I Oppose Legalizing Same-Sex Marriage
On radio with ‘Amy’: “I desperately wanted a daddy”
The real issue with same-sex parenting from a child's perspective [broken link, sorry]
Growing up with gay parents: What is the big deal? (references numerous scientific studies)
In France, anti-gay marriage voices emerge — from gays (it takes a long time to load, but it does eventually)
SCIENTIFIC STUDIES RELATED TO SAME-SEX MARRIAGE AND CHILDREN
Princeton-Brookings study: "Reams of social science and medical research convincingly show that children who are raised by their married, biological parents enjoy better physical, cognitive, and emotional outcomes, on average, than children who are raised in other circumstances.1 "
Marriage and Child Well-Being: Research and Policy Perspectives
Susan L. Brown
Journal of Marriage and Family
Vol. 72, No. 5 (October 2010), pp. 1059-1077
One has to pay to read the full article, which says: “Over the past decade, evidence on the benefits of marriage for the well-being of children has continued to mount. Children residing in two-biological-parent married families tend to enjoy better outcomes than do their counterparts raised in other family forms. …Children living with two biological married parents experience better educational, social, cognitive and behavioral outcomes than do other children on average.”
HOW BIG MONEY HAS ORCHESTRATED THE PHONY SAME-SEX MARRIAGE DEBATE
The Same-Sex Marriage Elephant in the U.S. Supreme Court Chamber
Discussion of same-sex marriage on the PDRBoston.org web site
An Open Letter to Those Who Voted for Same-Sex Marriage
Pro-Same-Sex Marriage "Young Turks" Unwittingly Argue Against Same-Sex Marriage
THE RULING ELITE SAYS "THE DESIRES OF ADULTS TRUMP THE NEEDS OF CHILDREN"
Liberalism's Contempt for the Welfare of Children
CLICK HERE TO READ ABOUT HOW SOME FAMOUS (PRO-SAME-SEX MARRIAGE) LIBERALS SAY THAT A FATHER SHOULD LIVE WITH HIS CHILD'S MOTHER AND LESBIAN WIFE, AND NOT ABANDON HIS CHILD BY LIVING ELSEWHERE
SIBLING MARRIAGE AND THE LAW
The U.S. Supreme Court's Legal Rationale for Supporting Laws Banning Sibling Marriage
The reason the U.S. Supreme Court gives for why sibling marriage is illegal is that sex between siblings is illegal (due to the risk of genetic harm to the resulting child.) If marriage had nothing to do with procreation, then the Supreme Court's reason would make no sense. The reason it DOES make sense, however, is because marriage in our society confers formal social approval to the couple to produce a child of their own (as opposed to adopting a child.)
Siblings do marry sometimes, and governments annul the marriages as illegal. Read examples here (also here) and here and here and here.
When siblings (or close relatives) first meet as adults and don't know initially that they are siblings (or close relatives) because of separation at birth or soon after, the genetic similarity may (it's an open question) make sexual attraction greater than it would be otherwise, as discussed here and here and here and here . This means that when an anonymous sperm donor has many children who are half-siblings and who don't know they are half-siblings, the likelihood of half-sibling marriages among them may be higher than if they were not so closely genetically related.
Children of siblings are at a higher risk of genetic harm because the probability of the child having a recessive gene from both parents is increased. Every subsequent generation of sibling matings (i.e., a child of a 2nd generation of sibling matings would be one whose grandparents [its the same couple on the maternal and paternal side] were siblings and the parents were also siblings) increases the probability of genetic harm to the child because it increases the genetic similarity between the child's two parents. Laws against sibling marriage are thus especially important to prevent 2nd, 3rd and higher generation sibling marriages, for which the risk of genetic harm to the child is very substantially greater than for a child of a 1st generation sibling marriage. Read about the genetics here and here and here and about the effect of many generations marrying within the family here .
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